Michelle! Change Her Mood, NOT Her Mind changed my life. It was painful and required a huge leap of faith, but the rewards are fulfilling.
This is my partners natural way of tending to me. It shocked me. It frightened me. I didn’t know how to express myself under these new rules of engagement.
Then something magical happened. I knew in my heart I could trust this one. I asked myself what if I trusted him fully? I received the greatest gift of all. I began to trust myself fully.
When I need to emote, I do. When I am wound tight and need to have my mood changed I ask for help and he stabilizes me.
That interaction has deepened our intimacy.
My friends think I am nuts.
It took me some time to understand that they aren’t ready. I know my partner had my best intentions at heart.
I knew the old paradigm didn’t empower me. In the beginning my partner would say to me, “You have an amazing life. Go, live it! And come home and tell me about it.” I loved the way I felt with him. Yet I couldn’t own my needs.
I knew this was the next step in my evolution.
I found you while researching evolved women. Thank you for the work you do.” ~ Christa
I remember the first time I met Michelle Terrell. I had never heard of any of the things she was dishing out about men and life. No one was teaching that message and certainly not in such a colorful in yo fucking face format. She tells it like it is and I respect and appreciate that so much about her. She has taught me far too many things to post here and I’m still learning and growing in great part to her.
Michelle Terrell has been an instrumental influence over the greater development of not only my deeper relationship to my feminine self – also a deeper richer relationship w all the men in my life – father, brother and son included! Thank you for showing me how to Have Men in my life — and for an alternative to the standards to a killing norm.
Let me tell you something. I’ve been going to counseling for a few years because I’ve had crap to deal with that no one could really help me with. It helps, but it was my friend and teacher, Michelle Terrell, who showed me how and why I needed to grow and also helped me understand my mother and start letting go of anger I had so much trouble letting go of. That among other good things. Thanks, Michelle!
Curiosity, not judgement, brought me to Michelle Terrell page. What unfolded has been a lot of ah-ha’s, oh YES! She doesn’t fluff things up with romanticized ideas about love and relationships but real life issues that men and women are having in the chaotic mess of a world we are in. It’s long overdue. These gritty conversations need to be heard! I appreciate her straight forward approach and have found so much value in her program, Love Men Up, and I’m not even half-way through! Ladies invest in this course and at $27 it’s a no-brainer!
“I had my first Skype coaching session with Michelle today. I am sure that what we discussed is obvious to all of you, but it is new to me.
The topics covered in the first module has been a bit of an eye opener for me, and particularly the Change Her Mood, NOT Her Mind ( part 1) has been more than a little interesting.
I didn’t, however, expect that I would be able to actually use the information from my first session essentially immediately!
After I came home, I experienced a “test” from my wife. Previously I would have skulked away or hidden in the computer room to avoid any further confrontation.
But, this time, for the first time, I didn’t! I used the techniques that I had reviewers only an hour or so earlier with Michelle. I stabilized myself. Took three breaths, and came up with an empathetic and humorous response. I was totally floored that I wasn’t further tested and my wife’s mood improved noticeably.
The rest of the evening was quite pleasant and relaxed.
To be honest, I can’t believe it! I thought my marriage was headed for the wood chipper!
I think that I may have seen a glimmer of hope tonight.
Along with Christmas and Hannukah and all of the other festivals of light that occur at this time of year, maybe this is my festival of light?
Thank you Michelle! This little bit of light has dispelled a lot of darkness!
“… I have to say that the work that Michelle and people like her do to assist men and women in heightening their emotional IQ is SO IMPORTANT TO THE WELFARE OF OUR COMMUNITIES.
Humanity will not change overnight- there are lifetimes’ of work to be done. But the foundation of what is being taught and practiced in groups like this IS the foundation for evolutionary change.” – Member of the Conscious Women Committed to Love Men UP Group
“Im glad I met this woman/guide/muse called michelle, I been on a road to self-refinement in how i show up in my life, and all that started this was a bad break up, and that lead me to the pua videos and mentality, and that led to nights going out to bars in confusion, and that led to google searching local puas, and that lead to michelle’s video on how to give a hug. something as simple as that was my inspiration to getting real. 🙂
then came the fireside meetup with these men that were in the same path as i was. that lead to following the program, that lead to wrestling with all these new concepts, and that lead to me trying to find out more of this truth, which led to watching his TED Talk and then meeting Dr Arthur E. Apolinario extremely thankful for that night!!
then to getting introduced to Chris Bale, all these people, all these paths that interrelate and I can just relax and be assured that this tribe will carry me forward as I do my own work too.
I still have issues, with mother, with girls that i like, with purpose, but My stance towards these things is so stable and more clear. thats my reclaimed masculinity right there.
Wow. I went on a date tonight. I revealed myself in ways in which I could have been rejected. Turns out, she not only appreciated my honesty but also was way more aligned with my values and life trajectory than I could have imagined. Eerily similar.
I got a chance to use CHMNHM and “not fix” her current problems, listen to her “berry markings” and see her openness because I was relaxed and open myself.
To Michelle and everyone in The Integrated Man group, thank you for your guidance and support.
I would like to express my gratitude for what you offer. I just finished all 3 sections of CHMNHM from the Stater Pack last night. I instantly had to apply it to my relationship last night and today twice and most likely a 3rd time today. This stuff really works.
I’ve never been able to be so direct and calm in my thoughts ever when speaking to a woman.
It is now serving me in a way I would have never imagined. And for that you have my thanks. I still have a lot to learn and I’m not stopping now that’s for sure..
My partner and I have been together for 8 years . I have worked hard over those years to be a better man for me, my 10 year old son and for her.
Worked hard on being present, read heaps, had counselling but I have to say I have learned more in the last 12 hours since stumbling upon your site than I have for ages. I think hearing you speak from a woman’s perspective has helped enormously.
I am familiar with a fair bit of what you are covering but somehow your delivery – maybe it’s your story, but the authenticity resonated deeply.
Everything you speak of with emasculation and men’s inability to stand strong and true when a woman needs it is definitely my/our story. Undoing the old learning is taking time but it’s worth the effort. Practice makes permanent!
Our relationship is ok but not fabulous at the moment and I now understand why. I look forward to connecting with my partner in a few days time and quietly putting into practice what I have learned so far from you.
Thank you and I really appreciate the commitment you have made to making this big old goofy world a better place.
When I get back in a few weeks I will subscribe to the starter pack and get into Skype coaching with you.
From a member of the Conscious Women Committed to “Love Men UP” group…
“The other day I was with my grand kids … The boys (ages 10 & 12) have no clue how to work with their sister (age 5… And a drama QUEEN)…and usually make matters worse when she gets overly upset.
Listen, I said to the guys …. You’ve got to Change Her Mood, NOT Her Mind!
They both looked at me like a light bulb just went off …. I asked if they knew what that means …?
The older one said …. “I’ve been trying to technically explain things to her when I should help her have fun and get her mind off it..”
Not a bad start for a 12 year old ….”.
Well this Change Her Mood NOT, Her Mind thing keeps getting better! I had a conversation with my Ex yesterday that had all of the ingrediants for a blow up. She started in on a couple things regarding a relationship with our oldest that I would have normally said she was crazy and dimissed her concerns which in turn would have ended in WAR!! lol Instead I took a deep breath let her voice her feelings. I made sure my breath wasn’t expressing exasperation and annoyance (my business as usual) but that it was purposeful and deeply calming (the new stable me). I then said that I know he loves his mom and this is probably just a misunderstanding. I told her I understand why she is upset and that she should have a conversation with him and that I was sure it would be alright. I think this completely confused her as Im sure she was expecting the usual. Her voice changed very quickly from almost in tears to much quieter and calm. I am in the process of teaching this to my sons, so they can avoid the drama and pain I went through. (I hope i get through to my oldest in time! lol).
I had my first in-office session with Michelle today. Let me first thank Michelle for her time and creating an environment where I felt very comfortable right away.
I am 45, divorced 2 years after a 10 year marriage with 2 kids. I have a great career that I love, a great group of male and female friends, some very close. I have reasonable success with women and if I am staying home on any given night it is by choice. Sounds pretty OK right?
Well, outward appearances are deceiving…all is not as it could or really as it SHOULD be.
The truth is that I am not very good at reading what women really want, I get by for a while on my quick thinking, and probably by talking my way out of it, but that only works so long. I can be very reactive in a negative way to these “tests” I am learning they put out and more often than not, I think I get them way wrong. I still have a lot to learn and all I know right now is that I do have a lot to learn.
Like a lot of guys my age, as it turns out, I suffer from anxiety based erectile dysfunction that is not doing me any favors either, and masturbating to porn definitely does not help that. I have used meds but quite honestly I hate them and how they make me feel. That shit is not natural and my dysfunction is not physical.
To reference a quote I found in the nice guy book that hit me to my core “an intelligent and talented man wasting his life in mediocrity”
That is me today, and that is why I am here seeking guidance and coaching from her and a sense of community from The Integrated Man Group to finally put this shit to rest and be the man I am capable of being.
Thank you again Michelle and also thanks to all of you here that may read this and for having the guts to be here..
I had my second Skype session with Michelle and I had a real break through regarding “Change Her Mood, NOT Her Mind” and the”test” concept, I finally get it! I had an experience last week with a woman I am dating that really solidified this and proved once and for all it works and I get it now! I now realize it can be about anything and know what it feels like when it comes. I can look back now and see a thousands of times in my past relationship where this would have made a huge difference and am so glad I got this part now. I almost look forward to the next time a woman tests me because I see it as an opportunity to get her to open up more and more each time. .
“3rd session with Michelle today and it took until now for me to be able to put words to the experience, words that at least feel somewhat accurate.
I walked in feeling foggy and uncertain, just kind of uncomfortable in my own skin. We explored my heart virtues based on patterns of that which has enraged me, given me goosebumps, and caused me to well up emotionally throughout my life. I felt such a sense of relief and excitement as I uncovered a consistent pattern that not only added up intellectually but felt completely TRUE at a very deep level. I can’t describe the body work other than to say it was something that I have never experienced before. Hopefully in time I’ll be able to express the connection, depth and intensity that seemed to flow through me.
I’ve felt slightly off center or slightly out of alignment for as long as I can remember. Kind of like a lens that’s slightly out of focus or a radio station that you just can’t quite properly tune in. I left today and that feeling was gone. It’s five hours later and what’s taken it’s place is just a feeling of being reconnected or whole. I keep waiting for it to fade, like I still doubt it but it’s not fading. Funny thing is I know the doubt is just my brain fucking with me, I can feel that it’s not going to fade.
Plenty more work to do, but man, today was a good day!
“So I just finished coaching session with Michelle and it was by far the best one and I need to share the power with everyone. In the session we found a connection of my father’s regret that I was carrying and was even try to use it with my ex’s poor choices affecting my children. A 30 year weight lifted. But even more powerful was the body work.
At one point while moving my head my neck locked and would not let Michelle move it any more. Realizing this instantly I focused on breathing but my muscle still resisted. Then Michelle said something funny about our talk and I smiled a bit and instantly my neck suddenly relaxed Michelle was able to move my neck wherever she wanted.
This then happened with my leg and second time with my neck. Each time my muscle locking up and only relaxed when she made me laugh about our session. Even more interesting is that my neck has been stiff all week from camping this weekend. It was not breathing, warm stones or aroma therapy that relaxed body but letting go of emotional hold up.
The power of the body connection to your emotions is unreal. But at the same time the most real thing I felt in a long time. Unbelievable breakthrough for me Michelle and I can’t thank you enough. Guys, learning the power of the mind body connection is profound and just waiting for you to grab it by the balls and rule your kingdom!!!”.
Michelle gives it to you straight, no extra sugar on top. And that’s just the way we like it. In an area saturated with male ego, she brings that extra edge of female finesse. Knowledgeable, articulate, smart and sassy, she is an amazing instructor and the perfect wing girl. She plays for the other team, but she’s always on your side..
Michelle Terrell is hands down the best female coach in the game. Her startlingly accurate intuition, combined with her empathetic nature, and grounded with her knowledge of male-female dynamics and the experience of being a hot woman herself, make her a world class coach for anyone who is lucky enough to train with her..
Over a year ago, I sent you an email explaining what I was doing wrong in my life (with relationships). Cheating, lying, and going as far as pretending to be someone completely different. …. you were the first person I was brutally open and honest with, a magnificent chain reaction occurred shortly afterwards. My ex-wife and I began to reconcile, we attended couples and individual therapy, and we were able, after a year of talking and dealing with our issues together, to reunite our family together..
I really love what you are doing for me and the world. I truly believe that if all guys knew these things, the world would be a better place (just as you say). I must admit when I first found out about you I was skeptical in more ways than one, but I took a leap of faith because my wife, family, and life are very important to me. I felt as if I was in a tornado and things going on in my life were objects locked into the whirlwinds. No matter what I did I couldn’t get a handle on any of it. Other times I felt like I was being tossed around by relentless waves, helpless to get on my feet and in control. You gave me the biggest slap in the face I’ve ever had in my life. All along I believed my wife was the problem. But it was me. I got weak and lazy, worst of all I forgot who I was. What you taught me in our first session alone turned things around for me and my family faster than I could have ever dreamed. I look forward to what is next. I’m exited about coaching and have hope!.
I wish I had met you prior to my marriage getting beyond repair and and owned my shit back then!!! I have started to share things about you and your program to other friends that I see going down a similar path I was in… or frankly.. just need to learn how to be an enlightened man!!! I?m sure you are well aware… but the work… and person you are is much appreciated!!!.
Man oh man, I was and still am glad that my path crossed with Michelle’s. Not only have I been able to reconcile my approach in life in general, but my perspective and engagement with women and now my girlfriend, has been astronomically better. What’s the best part is that this potential is inside every man and sometimes we just need someone to pistol whip it out of us. Thanks Michelle!.
Hi Michelle, good morning, I just wanted to send a quick note and let you know my husband watched a couple of your videos on eliminating female drama and listened to 123’s of female management. He said “that’s good stuff!” and found it interesting. He is going to order the home course (YES !!!!! Woo hooo!!!). If he gets 1/2 the insight “I” have already gotten from you, I think amazing things can happen, and it will make it easier for us to “see” each other. Thank you, thank you! *** Link to the FREE audio she is referring to: https://soundcloud.com/fearlessattraction/michelle-explains-1-2-3-of *** The “How to Handle TODAY’s Woman” home study studio course can be ordered on the “Products/ Payment” page on this site..
Over the course of my journey w/ women I have failed over & over again. All throughout high school & all throughout my 20s. I struggled with honestly expressing who I really was to the women I wanted so I acted how I thought they would like me to act. Like a Mr. Nice Guy, a people pleaser. Which is why I got nowhere with women because it wasn’t real. Im grateful I met Michelle because she helped me find the confidence that was hidden deep down inside. & theres great comfort knowing Im not gonna have to struggle with this for the rest of my life because I know how to connect with women now. Now not only can I connect with women but they actually compete for me. I consider that a good problem to have. So long story short all Michelle really did is teach me how to be more free..
Here’s the last text I sent Michelle. The proof is in the pudding… “Hey coach! Whatever you did to me I love you for it. Had a date w/ a gal that I would consider very intimidatingly gorgeous. All good hugs from the chest, no awkward silent moments, enjoyed the shit out of it bantering the whole time. Just a good time w/ a fiery kiss at the end of the night w/ more to come. Big win. Just sayin. You rock. That is all.”.
I had been in a tumultuous relationship with a woman for several months. There was constant drama and bickering from my girlfriend and accusations that I wasn’t opening up to her and giving her enough. After we came within an inch of breaking up for good, I purchased Michelle’s program. What I learned from it was game changing. I now understand how crucial a man’s present attention and grounding is to a woman’s emotional security – and how I had been failing to give that previously in my relationship. The past couple of days she’s been telling me how happy I make her, has been rushing to serve me however she can, and overall being the sweet woman I want and need her to be. A big thanks to Michelle Terrell and her teachings..
We have many teachers in life Michelle. The simple things you have clarified for me have had a huge impact on this new relationship that I have started. We went out last night and laughed so hard, stomach hurting, tears rolling down laughter. I know you get frustrated sometimes with all these dumb clods that can’t humble themselves enough to even begin to accept what you freely give. But, what I want you to think about today is that if you could just see how happy my woman is, you would then know what a blessing you really are. You don’t get to see first hand the difference that you make. I’m not saying this to suck up to you, I don’t play that shit and don’t have time for it. But, when someone has earned my respect they get it full on. You are an amazing woman and are making the world a better place than you found it — you just don’t see the fruits of your labor..
Michelle and I have the same goal: changing the world, one guy, one couple at a time. She’s a lot prettier than I am as well as being a cultural contradiction: she is both strong and vulnerable, speaking from her heart. I have found her teachings only appear to be surface stuff, yet strike a fist in your gut. This is the key to our change and progress, if you are ready for it..
Anyone looking to improve their relationships with women should start with Michelle first. It will save you a lot of time. Learning how women process, and how you can take the lead, with Michelle’s help, is the foundation of improvement in this area, and I’m glad I found her and her courses for me and my clients..
Michelle thanks for your hard work and vision. your dedication to the truth has helped propel my relationships in a much more positive direction. Thanks for all you do to ground us in the world. You are a magnificent advocate for men having world changing relationships..
The ability to grind through the personal experience of fully engaging manhood, in a one on one situation, is something I do not believe anyone else I have come across has. Michelle’s capacity to engage males is unsurpassed. The problem of today, wherein males unschooled in masculine presence, is the one where she fearlessly challenges and motivates her clients to embody the fullness of their abilities in the same way a superhero finally grows into filling his super-suit..
Michelle is real. And not a lot of other people working in Michelle’s field are very real. She holds nothing back and cares about you immensly. She has been dedicating her life to workiing with men in the trenches for a long time and her teachings are simple and designed to help the average joe get some pretty deep shit that not only makes them feel more confident and successful, but it transforms their lives and relationships. What I’ve always been inspired by in Michelle is her intuition, her sense of humor, and her ferocity. She will always tell you the truth and she will always show you love. I havn’t seen a woman helping men the way she does anywhere else. And she does it with integrity and heart. Any man who needs a woman’s presence to help him understand how he is showing up with women, to help him become a better version of himself, should see Michelle..
Whether its “The truth shall set you free but first it will piss you off”. Or “In a time of universal deceit – telling the truth is a revolutionary act.” Both of these quotes speak well of Michelle Terrell the relationship revolutionary. What she has to say may not be what you want, but its what every man needs. This work will change your life..
Michelle, you have been a life saver for me. When I felt like I would die from broken heart syndrome, the Universe brought you to me and from the moment I saw your mission and message, I knew I’d found a way out of the pain. Hesitant at first to enter into the conversation, I followed your FB page and found profound words of wisdom directed at men, yet the energy and compassion along with the wisdom filtered into my mind and heart and I knew that I could learn greatly from you. You helped me to better understand men, how to interact with them, and how to handle my own heart emotions when engaging with them. Where before I felt capsized by emotions, I now understand how to calibrate, have much better perspective and feel deeply aligned with my feminine, which allows a man to approach with all his masculine energy and I can stay afloat. Thank YOU from the bottom of my heart. You are an elite coach in every way and a beautiful human being..
I came to know Michelle through a mutual friend. The Universes timing could not have been more perfect. I was in a place of ending a 30 year marriage to a man who would have greatly benefited from her coaching. By observing her interactions with men I was able to identify where I needed to step up if I was to attract the type of man she seeks to have her coaching students become. Her insight and no holds barred, in your face style has a way of challenging you to be a better person regardless of your gender..
Michelle teaches the One and Only Thing the modern woman needs from a man. Knowing this one thing that I originally learned from Michelle has changed not only my life but the lives of over 1500 people I have influenced so far. Now I apply what she teaches in all aspects of my life to help the feminine wherever I go, not just in women but even in other men, dogs and cats. In fact, these days, I am known as a dog-whisperer because of my ability to calm down dogs that are too friendly. Yup, this is not about tricks and tactics. Nor is it limited to just your relationships with women. This is about a way of living life. It’s a Lifestyle. It’s the way you live life every moment. Kundan Blissgasms.Com.
I fell in love with Michelle’s honest, in-your-face, bullshit calling vibe. After watching some of her videos, I saw that she not only specifically identified common problems in the male-female dynamic (my marriage included), but was able to communicate these issues and their fixes to men in an empowering way. The difference here is that while my friends and I bitch about (and to) our husbands over problems in our relationships (mommy issues, fear of the female fire, etc.,) Michelle is able to get them to respond. I was ready to leave my husband when I suggested her teachings to him as a last ditch effort. After one course he became a different man in how he related and responded to me. I no longer feel that he is a little boy with a temper that I have to tiptoe around and actually feel he is my advocate and friend. I feel, for the first time in our long marriage, that he is a safe place I can be myself around. Oh! I am also actually sexually attracted to him again!.
I tell the guys I refer your way ‘Michelle gives it to you straight, no extra sugar on top.’ And that’s just the way we like it. In an area saturated with male ego, she brings that extra edge of female finesse. Knowledgeable, articulate, smart and sassy, she is an amazing instructor and the perfect wing girl. She plays for the other team, but she’s always on your side..
Thank you Michelle, I can’t tell you how much better I feel just knowing that I’m working with you and have somebody that I can trust so much. I know there will be trials to come, but I look forward to facing them with your help. I haven’t felt this committed for a long time. My energy levels are higher today and I feel optimistic for the first time in a long time. Thanks again, I’m truly looking forward to our next session! Have a wonderful day!.