Your Place in Her Sex Life
If you are hockin a big wad of spit on her pussy, before you even check or try a few things to get her wet, is the same indicator of your lack of sophistication and unconscious living as salting your food before you even taste it.
This neanderthal behavior showcases your willingness to have sex with an insufficiency opened woman. Not classy dude. Bad sex is what it is…mostly for her. Do you care?
Your place in her sex life is to cause her mind to quiet and body to fully open. Do you really want to have sex with a woman that is so shut down she is willing to go through with it even when her body is not activated in full desire? Are you that desperate or that unskilled?
Behavior like this is the calling card of a man that does not (yet) have the skills to open a woman to him, all day long and ramp that up to a fever pitch in bed.
This can be forgiven in young men, those men that have only had sex with a one or just a few inexperienced, shy young women. In that case, it is the a cultural deficit at fault for not teaching our young men these valuable things.
Things is, when a older man or a long time husband, a man that has access to all the same materials and range of experiences (most non sexual) people like myself have studied, then he has failed/chosen not to grow himself up in this way, well, that just becomes unforgivable.
See, at some point she starts to take this as rejection, lack of respect for her, laziness, and she feels taken for granted and taken advantage of with that man. It is subtle at first and she doesn’t know herself yet so she use the cultural norm as a guide for behavior and acceptance and then it become undeniable that something is missing. Something seeking to express that is nagging at her inside and turning her into a nag.
She may still have love for him and commitment to stay, but her desire, her enthusiasm will increasingly shrink back the longer he fails to see that re-opening her over and over, that seduction is required. Not required by HER but simply required for a great life. It is an art he has failed to seek out, thus becomes a big childish clod in her eyes. Female desire is directly attached to respect for a man and his natural power.
She is growing and changing just with the normal maturation of womanhood. She tries to stunt her growth to stay pace with you, so she doesn’t out distance you too far and come to resent the giant teenage boy clinging onto her, but her wise woman seeks to rise. She finds herself at a crossroads in life. One direction will tail spin her into depression and shut down or she can choose to unleash her inner power and radiant, life force on her own. If she has to do this for herself then why does she need you? She can choose to give her femininity a vehicle and a voice, even if you are not on board. Where does that leave you?
All those moments where you refuse to level up, during the day, during your weeks together, start to add up in her body and her psyche until her closure can not be temporarily fixed with just a glob of your thoughtless spit.
My experience is that once men learn how to open a woman he finds tremendous sanctification and joy in doing so and life get super good for him and his.
I can teach you. The foundation to all of this is Change Her Mood, NOT Her Mind and you will find the intro pieces in the Core Lessons Sampler Pack for Men & Women but if you want to really get up to speed on conscious living which of course, includes conscious, amazing sex, then a coaching program is what you want to invest in >>> Coaching Intensive Programs