When the Crazy is Real – Recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder Women
Is She Crazy or Are You a Failure?
If have been introduced to my Change Her Mood, NOT Her Mind content you are already ahead of the game. You may now be beginning to realize that the woman you are involved with or the women you tend to attract, are suffering with a clinical level of Borderline Personality Disorder.
Medically defined cases of BPD, diagnosed or not, reach far beyond natural female emotional range of expression.
I describe healthy female emotional processing in my coursework for men, in fact, it is the heart of my work to teach men how to guide and manage women’s amazing capacity to refine life through her unique intuitive skills.
Having studied that, you now have a scale to use to define what is normal emotional female expression and potentially a clinical matter.
You may now suspect that you are dealing with a clinical level of Borderline Personality Disorder that is destroying your realtionship and crushing your spirit.
Realizing that you weren’t simply mis-reading her signals and lacking in your understanding of women is a huge first step. This isn’t your fault, but you DO have massive power to change things.
In fact, you are the only one with any real power to create a full 180 on your life.
What I have learned in my many years listening to men just like you, is that it will require very specific support and education to re-hab yourself and get your life back on a healthy track.
Consider that nagging sense, that is getting louder, your best friend right now. It is a wake up call that you may have fallen into something far more sinister and dysfunctional than just common relationship problems.
You now see you may require some focused and sustained help to untangle the mess. The truth is, this realtionship has caused a mess in your mind, body, heart and life.
All You Know is You Are Exhausted
Here is the real deal, when you’ve been attacked by, messed around, manipulated and controlled, rejected repeatedly, frantically clung to and unceremoniously dumped (maybe many times) by a Borderline Personality Disorder woman, you get worn down. Your energy for anything else, let alone your own fulfillment and self care, becomes dulled and displaced. You may feel disoriented and hopeless much of the time.
What you are experiencing now, is a lot like being lost in a brain fog that you have come to feel as your normal. As you emerge out of this bio-chemical depressive fog, everything hurts, you are not sure you will ever recover and you are questioning the core of who you really are so you slip back into the fog.
You are not the first man to feel this way and sadly, this is becoming more and more the common cultural norm.
There is a great deal of shame attached to this repeated going back and giving up pattern, but there is no man that has been where you are that would ever shame you. My online support and study group is full of men that have been right where you are and are recovering beautifully with coaching and proper support.
It isn’t uncommon for men exiting a BPD realtionship to feel he may even want to check out of life altogether. The discomfort can be tremendous.
The very thought of enduring it much longer, let alone moving on and somehow finding the love and connection, your soul so desperately craves, seems overwhelming. What I have witness is, after this surreal experience its so hard for good men to tell which end is up. Please hang on, help and hope exists!
There Is Support and You are Not Alone
My 20 years coaching men through break-ups and run ins with BPD women, has offered me first hand experience and raw data to share with you.
The good faith and brave work of the thousands of good men just like you, has given me a very clear understanding of what specific knowledge the average guys needs to smooth out and lead a relationship well.
It has also created an undeniable distinction between that average guy and the hellish PTSD like symptoms you may be experiencing due to involvement with a Borderline Personality Disorder woman.
The solution is always the same, it always comes back to your self worth and learning how to navigate your way out of this with grace and dignity. This begins with defining the difference between pamper/treats to cope and meaningful self-care that actually empowers men to their personal greatness.
Why Would a Good Man Like You Attract a Borderline Personality Disorder woman?
There is a very specific male personality type that tends to attract Borderline Personality Disorder women. They are like magnets for these dysfunctional women. Sometimes referred to as a Nice Guy Syndrome guy or a Norm Following Pleaser type.
Sadly, it is his decency that attracts her in the first place and ignites her rage over time. His deep desire to please, not rock the boat and earn favor as a likable guy makes him the Borderline Personality Disorder women’s perfect, sub consciously targeted victim.
Her attention seeking tactics and inability to maintain stability is aggravated by his efforts at placation. His every move marks his own growing instability, the cycle gains momentum. Daily pressure becomes more and more intense until one or the other can’t take it anymore. You are she will break apart or be smart and break free.
It is very confusing for the good guy stuck in this cycle. His every move seems to just make things worse.
Everything he offers to sooth her only increases her anxiety, acting out behaviors and escalates her threats. It becomes clear it is time to leave. You must gather a healthy support system and learn the skills you desperately need to navigate the uncoupling journey and co-parenting with the least amount of fall out possible.
Have NO desire to repeat these patterns of dysfunctional attraction?
Want to leave this baggage behind so you can thrive with women?
Ready to break free of the hurt to attract the life you deserve?
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